Hi Everyone....!

Perhaps you can give me some advice? My 19 year old, after a disagreement with me, decided to move in with her boyfriend at his parents house !! His parents are quite willing to put her up, at a cost of R1000 per month, and she earns a pittance !!

I am totally distraught that these parents would encourage this and not try to encourage her to come back home. Her and her boyfriend have been dating for approx 2 years now, she's my only child and I am beside myself with worry and concern....

Does anyone have any advice on how to hand this matter???

Very Heartbroken Parent

Hey, jo49 nice answer there - why don't you go back to your YOU magazines and leave the grownups to talk?

Actually, Mrs YOU magazine (jo49), I DID answer her question - but the censors on this board didn't publish the post.

Herewith (in a nutshell): Contact your daughter and meet with her in a neutral environment, where you can discuss your problems. Also, don't be too harsh with regards to the boy's parents - if they don't allow her to stay, perhaps she will end up on the street. And that's a far worse option. As with everything, the answer lies in discussion, and in dialogue - keep your ears open and your mouth shut, and you'll be surprised what you hear when you're REALLY listening.

As for you, jo49 - ever hear of spell-check? The word you were apparently looking for is 'technically'...

If you can't say something helpful, why don't you just zip it? Everybody KNOWS that 'technically at 18 a child is considered to be an adult' - but that wasn't what the poster was asking about, was it now?

Actually, lady (IF you're one - we'll give you the benefit of the doubt for now, though - it being customary to display such small courtesies to women, no matter HOW unpleasantly they behave), I have never used spell check in my life - I just happen to be properly and functionally literate. And if you haven't picked up on it (obviously not!), here's a newsflash - I'm not the only "guest" on this forum who doesn't like your attitude or your mindset. Interestingly, the other guest/s is/are ALSO able to spell properly - which is probably what threw you. It IS, after all, an increasingly rare skill nowadays. In YOUR circle, apparently...

Probably the censors didn't like that I suggested you get a spell-checker. I believe, now you mention it, that you only need to press "F7" to access that particular utility while composing a message or posting - and it should then quite easily point out that, just for an example, "I" as used in your reply above is normally capitalised.

Have a LOVELY little day, in spite of yourself.

Well, it seems that 'Guest' actually did make an attempt (the ONLY attempt) to answer the question posed, not so?