@ ludditelass
Thank you for the positive note. If you do not mind is it possible for you to share the contact details of the agencies that you contacted and were able to assist with your adoptions.

There are white babies out there if you wish to adopt a white baby, yes it does take longer but i know of at least 3 people who have adopted white babies in the last year but some of us choose to adopt a baby regardless of colour or culture so please don't judge or make racists comments because it's unnecessary and hurtful!

Wow it amazes me at the responce that you get from people.

Fact: There are very very few White babies out there
Fact: There sadly are lots of black and colored babies out there
Myth: People dont adopt children for a social Satus
Fact: There are many Children in the foster system

I wish people would stop looking at race in total. I understand there are cultral diffrences but seriously people who Adopt children are a blessing. Just as the Birthmoms who Place their children up for adoption. I can promise you a child would rather have two parents who love them regardless of race than be in the street not cared for or loved.

A child doesnt see color it only sees love so why cant the rest of you see this.

Mom to two girls
Birthmom to a beautiful daughter placed 2yrs ago
Surrogate

All those who says there are white babies available, can you please give that detail? please share that detail online with other parents who desperately want to adopt white children. It sound to be one of the best kept secrets out there?! It is SO easy to say but there is white babies available. Do you know the abortion stats in SA? Do you know a child of 12 can have an abortion? Did you visit an abortion clinic? You will cry! White little girls are sitting there. They abort their babies, they don’t want to be pregnant. they don’t even consider adoption. Because abortion is the 1st option you get form the abortion clinic sister. Not adoption.

also did you sit with a list of 250 phone numbers phoning EVERY agency in SA and only hears sorry, no white babies available. or we can only accept 20 couples a year for babies. or hear we have a waiting list of over 400 couples. Or sorry all lists are CLOSED for white babies, or go to children’s homes and went for 'fostering lessons'? that is what we personally went through. For 3 years! all answers I got was sorry. no, not now, non available, cannot assist, no white babies, etc etc etc... even fostering is a nightmare, most parents do not want to sign a form for fostering, or do not want to give their children up for adoption. they will rather let their child suffer in a children’s home then give that child to parents who can help.

I had to rethink my whole parenting after that. I wanted to become a mommy, why must I suffer because I cannot fall pregnant, I wanted to cry every time I see a pregnant mommy or a mommy with a baby, I was like why me?? why??? why can’t I adopt? I had a hysterectomy at 20 so there were NO changes of IF’s and that stuff.

I was 35 when I became open for a cross-cultural adoption. today I have 2 beautiful colored little ones, I cannot imagine my life with them not in it. yes we do have obstacles, yes, we do have people that blatantly stares and point to us, but I don’t care I love my babies, I only want the best for them in life.

Who are you to judge us? Just because we are open to cross cultural adoption doesn’t make us bad people? I cannot BELIEVE that we are being labeled trying to be ‘in’, also why is it a problem for blacks when we adopt black babies??

The point is no one is asking you who became pregnant and have a baby any questions but us who constantly have to fight to became a mommy must be labeled and judges just because we want to adopt? Very unfair..

I am so excited that you want to adopt a child - we need more people like you in the world!

I fostered a gorgeous little coloured boy when he was 4 weeks old (he is now nearly 4 years old) and he is the light of my life. That God could have blessed me with such a precious gift is a true miracle. I pray that we will be able to adopt him soon!

Having worked in the social service sector and volunteered at many children's homes has awakened me to the reality that a loving home is ALWAYS better than a children's home, or living on the streets.

Have you ever thought about fostering? It can be very rewarding and you often have the privilege of loving more than one child over the years. There is a desperate need for loving foster parents in this country.

To the unfortunately ignorant racist people out there, as others have mentioned, it is very tough to adopt a white baby. I cry when I think of how many white babies are aborted each year, but that is the reality. Last year, friends of ours finally adopted a white baby after being on the waiting list for 10 YEARS! Most people won't wait that long, and no one can blame them.

Who cares what colour your skin is? My husband is coloured, I am white, and we have a wonderful rainbow family...but I'm guessing you don't approve of mixed marriages either!

Hi Guest (27/5/10 12:41:51)

I would like to find out if your little girl had any problems with other people and how they treated her. Was she teased etc?

We are in the process of adopting and waiting for our baby. We do not have a race preferance as we feel the same way you do. It really is just the colour of their skin. We are however taking into consideration how our child will be treated by others. Kids get teased for the smallest thing these days and I would hate to add something else for my child to be treated badly for.

I was just wondering if someone - like you - with first hand experience could give me more info so that I could be prepared for that as our baby get's older.

Thank you so much :)

I wanted to let you know that my Cape Town based adoption support group will be starting on the 14 July Wednesday evening at 19:30 – 21:30.

I am also trying to get a group going on a Monday late afternoon (16:30 – 18:00). There are not yet enough people to make up a group at this time, but this group might be able to start earlier ( 7, 14, 21 June and the 5, 12, and 19 July) so this might suit you if you are keen to start as soon as possible better.

Both these groups are for people who are considering adoption and want to talk through the decision, those who are in the
process of adopting and for those who have adopted and need support.

If you are interested in joining either of these groups, please contact me (ct.adoption.support@gmail.com) to set up a time to meet and discuss your needs.

This is the adoption forum, and I wish those with their racists attitudes will please find another forum that they can address their racists remarks, and not on this page!! You obviously have not adopted or interested in the process of adoption, or even remotely understand the reasons people have for opting for an interracial adoption. Your remarks are naive and insensitive and I wish that you could please find another forum that will be more applicable to what you are looking for, as this page is obviously not meant for you.

Hi reluctantmom, this thoughtful, understanding reply of yours has touched my heart today. I love what you've said here.

Claire_V you are talking absolute NONSENSE, i know of 4 woman you have adopted WHITE babies YES WHITE BABIES in the past 6 months


We have tried and tried - I can not find the correct people to assist in adopting a white baby. this has been 3years.thank you.