Wow, i took time to ready everyones comments. And it is shocking, both from the biological parent aspect and some comments on people claiming they are adoptive an foster parents. Everyone is so negative. Why? Are anyone remembering that these children was born into a world of drugs, abuse, poverty, every child has a good mother out there, hence a biological or adoptive, foster. As adults it is our responsibility to keep all the children safe!
And the comment about offering an amount of money, whoever you are, and however it might sound, thoughts like that crosses one's mind, as you would absolutately do anything to keep that child with you, safe and well looked after. So it is not nice to joke about it.
We are very proud foster parents of two children from the same bio mother and father. In our case the first born was very badly abused, and had multiple fractures, and as a baby of one month this is terrible, to think anyone could hurt a baby. Both children have been in our care, and we consider ourselves lucky that they were babies, so we have a really special bond with both children.
We found out that the social worker on the mother side did not co operate with the police investigation on the criminal case against the mother, and the bio mother firmly believes she will get her children back. She has no home, no income, no education, no husband, no support system, no family. Early on we as parents realised that this is not about us, our needs, our home being filled with little feet, and our family loving them as we dont have children of our own. So you can imagine the absolute love and gratitude to be able to have a chance to love a child. But this is not about us, but about the children. We have been working closely with our social worker, we have been working closely with the police and we WILL succeed to keep these children safe. And that is what we fight for every day. To give them, yes a good home, with lost of clothes, rooms, and toys, but most importantly to keep them safe. To teach them as much as we can about life, and values, as we do not know what tomorrow brings. We firmly believe we will be able to adopt them one day, but for now, we take and live this day by day.
To all foster parents. I salute you, as this is emosionally and on every other level hard work! Draining, and you on this quest are selfless and are making a difference in that child's life. Know this, that you are not alone. And I also have respect for our social worker and welfare organisation, they do everything they can for the best interest for every child. But again, work closely with your (foster parent) social worker, and make sure that all the rules are followed as it happens. Remember the social workers are also just human and can make mistakes. Good luck. And have a great year!