I have two. Just over 6 years apart. i want to have at least 1 more kid . But my son is already 8 years old. How will the new kid fit in if at 7 he has a 15 year old brother and and 21 year old sister. Maybe i should just forget it

Hi

My two boys are more than 6 years apart. My older son is just loving his brother and the boys are very close. I hope it always stays that way. I thought I was going to have problems with my older son but he has adapted to the new baby and changes in our home very positively.

I think the gap should be 3 years and up. I have a daughter (10), a son (6), twin girls (3) and baby boy (5months). I could handle the first two gaps much easier than the last one, because the older child was at an age of understanding. I struggle alot with the twins constantly pulling on the baby, touching him too hard, try to put the dummy in too hard, I can't leave him alone anywhere in the house. They even try to pick him up. They just don't understand what is acceptable yet.

Tiago, don't stress yourself about this age gap - the children don't worry about it. My sons are 12-odd years apart, and they ADORE each other.

Seriously, love doesn't see age gaps - children just love unconditionally.

My 2 are 16 months apart, they fight constantly!!! i think the gap should be wider... maybe 3 or 4 years...

Well since the unborn is part of your family, s/he is probably in favour of being born so there's one supporter right there ! Don't worry about other people's ideaologies and what they think is right regardless of who they are. You, your hubby, your boy and the next bundle of joy are your direct family. Everyone else is secondary, and as important as they are in your life, you should not strive to keep them happy at the cost of your own.

I have 3 boys: The eldest 2 are 2 yrs 10 months and 3 yrs 10 months - so they are 1 year, 1 day apart. And my third is 10 months old. They were all born in Feb! It's been tough, but we've adjusted and I've found you need 4 magical ingredients to make it work: 1. A hands-on hubby, 2. STRICT ROUTINES 3. A fabulous nanny (8am-3pm) 4. A wonderful educare (7.30-5.45pm) This way, everything is predictable for them (and us!), they know what's acceptable in terms of discipline and they all get along really well. I can honestly say there has never been a stitch of jealousy from any of them as they've never experienced (or remember) being an only child. Obviously it's not perfect: we try our best, but by the end of a weekend, the house looks like a bomb has hit! But it's little things to implement from day one: none of our kids have ever slept in our bed, they ALWAYS eat in their high chairs - still - even if it's just a sweet, AND we give them lots of attention and love - quality time reading books, talking, singing with them, going for walks, etc.

my and my brothers are 3 years! i see thats the gap that most people are, my daughter only 5 months and hope i wont have any more for next 2 and half years

The gap between my 3 children is 1 minute each! I'm the very proud single parent father of 8 year old triplets.