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  As close as possible to each other
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  More than three years apart
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  A five year gap is manageable
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  One is enough!
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yaf_admin
#1 Posted : Wednesday, May 20, 2009 11:53:52 AM(UTC)
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Look, our first forum poll. Let us know what you think the ideal gap is.
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deirdre
#2 Posted : Wednesday, May 20, 2009 12:41:12 PM(UTC)
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i only see the results... can' vote. but think 3 is ideal - 2 years has been tough.
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#3 Posted : Wednesday, May 20, 2009 12:41:29 PM(UTC)
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Vote by clicking on the words of the option you're voting for.
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deids13
#4 Posted : Wednesday, May 20, 2009 2:33:21 PM(UTC)
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Ooh fun, I do love polls :d/
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#5 Posted : Wednesday, May 20, 2009 4:42:08 PM(UTC)
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I didn't vote, but you know I have to have my say :D I think a 2 year gap would be good - get all the nappies and sleepless nights out of the way, then have a relatively "normal" life again! Plus they'd be close enough to be able to play with each other. I don't think having them too close is a good idea, as your body needs time to recover after the 1st! But 3+ years? Our gap is 4 years 4 months (not by choice), and I often wonder if having them closer would've been easier. Mind you, nappies for 2 at the same time would bankrupt anyone!
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#6 Posted : Thursday, May 21, 2009 5:29:49 PM(UTC)
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i have two little girls 1y1month apart and i am doing just fine,as for the nappies its not a problem and now they wear the same size.they play together very well with fights there and there but everything is ok.
i believe that no matter what the gap is if you were going to have problems you would have them no matter what.
the only problem is that they need attention and that happens with all kids.
i don't spend a lot on clothes eighther as Katlego wears Kea's clothes and you do find the balance with everything....
it is tiring but it feels good to see your kids play together and know that you are blessed no matter how old they are.
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women24ed
#7 Posted : Friday, May 22, 2009 4:45:28 PM(UTC)
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My boys are 2 years apart, to the conception date. Can anyone say... German Engineering?

Drool

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#8 Posted : Monday, May 25, 2009 1:31:20 PM(UTC)
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Well I got three - oldest boy is 17 going on 18 the second boy is 11 going on 12 (6year gap) and baby is 1 going on 2 (ten years from the last one and 16 years from the first) Tried for the third once the 2nd one was 3 it took 7 years but she's worth it!
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#9 Posted : Tuesday, May 26, 2009 12:15:52 AM(UTC)
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I have 4 - oldest 17, then 14, then 3 and last one nearly 5 months - And I love them all equally and the gaps are brilliantly done - not planned that way - just very very lucky is happened that way!
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#10 Posted : Tuesday, May 26, 2009 12:46:28 AM(UTC)
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I have three 6year old son , 3year old son and 8month old baby girl. The two little one's play together well and first son loves playing with baby too.
My six year old however is constantly fighting with his little brother for various reasons eg He breaks all my toys, he wears all my favourite cloths (because they dont fit anymore). I think that thier age gap is too far apart in the sense that they are always sqabiling over something and dont share the same interest, but they miss each other like crazy if they are seperated for more than a few hours. I think that they are going to be very close when they are older.
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#11 Posted : Tuesday, May 26, 2009 2:53:38 PM(UTC)
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We 3 kids .... 3 year gap between each of us .... worked well

I have 2 boys - eldest is 5 (going on 6) & baby is 2 (soon to be 3) .... Applause
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#12 Posted : Tuesday, May 26, 2009 5:18:05 PM(UTC)
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I think what I see from your answers is that the gap doesn't matter? As long as you have more than 1?
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#13 Posted : Wednesday, May 27, 2009 5:35:00 PM(UTC)
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marelizen wrote:
I think what I see from your answers is that the gap doesn't matter? As long as you have more than 1?


Hi Marelizen - I saw your comment regarding the poll. I have a daughter of 2.5 yrs and am wanting another child. However, I have 3 step children, so from a financial point of view it is a big decision to make. My daughter has also been a very demanding child, however, I think having children is generally quite demanding. I'm not sure how I will cope financially and emotionally with having another child.

I think of my daughter getting older and not having a sibling and it makes me very sad as my siblings are my closest friends. Unfortunately time is not on my side (I'm 37, hubby 45) and I don't want the gap between my daughter and the next to get too big so they can't be playmates.

Do I just go for it and know that things will work out, please give me your thoughts.
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teagirl
#14 Posted : Thursday, June 18, 2009 4:47:17 PM(UTC)
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My son is 3 years and my daughter is 8 months. Really doesn't matter what the age gap is, but I prefer to see them grow up together.
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#15 Posted : Thursday, September 10, 2009 1:20:16 PM(UTC)
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My sister and brother are 3 years apart and I think that's perfect! :)
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Khens.Mathye
#16 Posted : Thursday, September 10, 2009 3:07:33 PM(UTC)
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i have 5 siblings,2 brother and 3 sister we all have the same age gap,which is 3 years,and i think that is the pefect age gap as we all gew up together and very close.
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samwilson
#17 Posted : Monday, September 14, 2009 11:31:15 PM(UTC)
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there is a two year gap between my children, and for me - it was a little too soon. My sons however are best friends, so ti worked for THEM. :)


If I could have a do-over? Three years I think.
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#18 Posted : Tuesday, November 03, 2009 4:24:40 PM(UTC)
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I have a 7yr old daughter. I have been entertaining the idea of another one for quite a while. I think the age gap between the two wouldn't work out.
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#19 Posted : Tuesday, November 03, 2009 10:42:18 PM(UTC)
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@SingleMommy My sister is 7 years older than I am, and we struggled to understand each other's point of view when we were kids, but as we became adults we became better friends.
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#20 Posted : Tuesday, December 01, 2009 12:55:03 AM(UTC)
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I am strongly in favour of an aproximately 3 year gap. A friend and I both have a 3 year 2 month age gap between 2 daughters and found that the eldest was starting to separate from us and not threatened by the new arrival...in fact they were thrilled to be able to "help" and be a big sister. However I do feel that the childrens individual personalities will often play a bigger role in how well they get on than the age gap. My brother and I are 18 months apart and have always had a somewhat difficult relationship and yet another friend swears that the 18 month and 2 year age gaps between her three was ideal! (She was a young mother in her early 20's tho! lol ) I would have really struggled with a smaller age gap as my eldest was incredibly demanding...feeding 2 to 3 hourly and sleeping in 20min catnaps... thankfully my second was almost the complete opposite needing to be woken for feeds 4 hourly when I got too uncomfortable!
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