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#1 Posted : Wednesday, May 05, 2010 11:06:54 AM(UTC)
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Help!

My husband and I both want children some day but for a number of good reason we have decided that it is best to wait a little longer before we do.

The problem here is that I am extremely broody. Two nights ago I dreamt that I had 3 baby boys. I woke up and when I fell asleep again I dreamt that I had twin boys. A few months ago I had a dream that I had a beautiful curly-haired little girl. \

When my sister-n-law announced her pregnancy, I was over the moon with happiness for her but I did have to suppress a lot of jealousy first. The day she announced that it was a girl, it took me an entire day to get over the jealousy. Now she has a beautiful baby girl and it is not helping my broody feeling one single bit.

I really want a child. It is my greatest desire, but I understand that it is best if we wait a while. How do I deal with these feelings so I can follow my head and do what is best for the child?
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#2 Posted : Friday, May 07, 2010 2:09:17 PM(UTC)
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You know what, I don't think you can get rid of broodiness. It does come and go, though. But also, why not find a constructive way to channel the feelings? For example, volunteer at a children's home for an hour or two on the weekend, or spend some time helping a neighbour with her baby. I'm serious, it will help!
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#3 Posted : Friday, May 07, 2010 4:03:11 PM(UTC)
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Or babysit a real brat - that should banish the broodiness for a couple of months at a time.... !
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#4 Posted : Monday, May 10, 2010 4:46:30 PM(UTC)
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I know the feeling very well! It is something that grips you and not even spending time with the worst of children will it go away! The idea of working at a childrens home is great! But i got rid of my broodiness by having a baby... i fought the feelings off for two years before giving in, taking a chance (as it was the beginning of the recession) and we had a beautiful baby girl, but now that she is a year old, i am yearning all over again, but know that i have to wait at least another two years.

I understand what you mean about the jelousy, i fight that off daily, just on a different level as my twin has everything come so easily to her, she has never had to worry about where the next shopping spree or groceries is coming from and she gets all her heart desires.

Take care and remember the reasons for your waiting. All the best and good luck for when the time comes.
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#5 Posted : Wednesday, May 12, 2010 10:44:17 AM(UTC)
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Aw hun...i feel your pain.

I am 30 and always wanted children but 5 years ago had a tumour on my ovaries and was told i will struggle to conceive - but with help it IS possible.

and even with that knowledge..the broodiness does NOT go away! im now single and thats even scarier as time goes on because i start wondering if it will ever happen for me.

You have a husband who is probably just as keen for children as you are. You have plans to HAVE children one day. Work on that. and remind yourself that one day you will be blessed with that beautiful gift from God and you will be able to provide for it as it deserves because you are being so responsible now.

Your time will come!
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#6 Posted : Tuesday, May 18, 2010 4:14:49 PM(UTC)
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Our eldest is almost 3 and our twins are almost 2. Our lives are insane, but yet I want more:) Not sure how to stop the broodiness! Maybe just go ahead and have a baby? Whatever the issues, generally the pale in comparison to actually having the baby, and you can adjust your life!
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#7 Posted : Wednesday, May 19, 2010 9:41:07 AM(UTC)
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Baby sit my two kids for a day. A 4 yr old and a 1 yr old. Might change your mind :)
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