I'm sure by now most of you know I do not have a relationship with my husband's family. I defiantely do not want to have a relationship with them none the less....

My husband has recently resigned and we are now starting his brand new business.
In other words money is really tight & we have no room for error when it comes to spending as my income is the only stable income at the moment.

Long story short, my mother in law phoned my husband to borrow money (knowing he does not have to give)
She then asked him to ask me for the money.

I have major problems with this. Firstly she has my number, she could've asked me herself.
Secondly she doesn't ever contact me ever - only when she wants something.
Thirdly, I am tired of her always passing on messages through my husband to me, greetings, asking about our daughter through him etc.

It may seem petty, But surely it is common courtesy to do so? How dare she treat me & my child the way she does, then come and ask my husband to ask me if she can borrow money??
I feel disrespected. How do I handle this situation?

Grab the bull by the horns and confront her head on. If she don't like it, tell her to head North. If your husband had a pair, he would also tell his mum how things are and to pull her sh!t together. Good Luck.