In terms of South African Law none, however look to your prenup if you have one alternatively file for divorce and get maintenance.

You can sue the person having an affair with your spouse, but you can’t stop them! And your only recourse against your spouse is to sue for divorce.

There are two grounds on which to sue them -

‘Adultery’, which is the act of having sex with a married person.

‘Alienation of affection’ or ‘Enticement’ means paying attention to the spouse of another person, with the intention of drawing that person away from his or her marriage

You know you take her to the cleaners and you make her pay for emotional abuse....

As alot of these women get away with it and it must come to a stop!!!!

You trusted your friend and she turns tricks with your husband. I say if you can get suing her for alienation of affection, take her for all she's got and let her work for you for the rest of her natural life. What a skank she is, but let me tell you watch the tables turn on the two of them. If he could cheat on you with your best friend, she could cheat on him with his best friend. Watch this space.

lose some weight so he doesnt cheat in the first place

going for the mistress is so wrong. Your hubby was a willing participant. He was not forced into doing anything. He actually enjoyed himself so much that he impregnated her. Look deep into yourself. What have you done to push your husband to your own friend?

The best revenge is letting her keep him. Trust me.

I agree, your husband is the married one here, he is not a victim or clueless on what he was doing. he should have thought of his family and the vows he took before getting invloved with your friend. you should distance yourself from both of them, they both dont deserve you, distance yourself from both of them.

I fully understand how deeply hurt you are by the two people closest to you. What I don't understand is everyone's fixation on the other woman. Did she hold a gun to your husband's head or force him to cheat in any way? Let's face it, it's your husband's responsibillity to remember he's married and to uphold the promises he made you. No-one else's. File for divorce and walk away with your dignity in tact. Don't bring yourself down to their level for payback which is going to take a huge emotional toll from you and rarely works out in the wife's favour. They will end up blaming you for the divide between you and your husband which led him to have the affair and the first place. If you're unable to prove your inocence plus willfull intent on her side you may even end up paying damages to her.

U ha him firs and did not keep him happy. Your loss her gain!