takes two to tango, they are both responsible for it but the husband should have know better given his commitment and obligation. However, you can still work things out, it's not the end of the world. The other woman is just a low life by the way

Although I do believe there are women who willfully entice married men, often the "mistress" has been mislead by the husband, believing that the marriage is already doomed. Some husbands even "court" an unwilling woman, playing on her emotions, insisting that she is not going to cause the divorce as the marriage is already doomed.

On the other hand, the marriage could already be a failure, and the wife blames the mistress for destroying her already dead marriage, thereby shifting what might have been her part of the blame for the divorce onto the shoulders of the mistress.

An affair is actually a symptom of an existing problem within the marriage, getting to the root of the problem could not only restore or save the marriage, but could also stop the husband's philandering, that is, if he is committed.

In my opinion, though, willfully enticing a married man away from an otherwise healthy marriage is unforgivable! But once again, the mistress did not make those marriage vows, he did! And he should honor them!

...just my 2c worth...

Sue the both of them if you can. My ex husband did a similar thing and brought his so called preg gf to my house. I eventually filed for divorce but if I had the cash I would have sued him for much more.
(Another thing, it doesnt matter how you look or what you did/said, the fact is he went astray instead of looking for help while you were still married and that is a reason why you should not feel sorry for him)
Like the vows "in sickness and in health, for better or worse until death do us part" he knew very well what he was getting himself into so he could have done the decent thing and told you that he wanted a divorce instead of bringing your friend home pregnant. How immature? He needs to grow up....or pay up!!!! Good Luck Girl...

what an ass !!!!!

You got to THIS party a little bit late, didn't you, Guest? Almost TWO MONTHS late....

Please let us know what you decided to do, and how it turned out. It is awazing to read everybodies opinions, wonder if all have been through this... I am currently in the same situation, should I take her to court or not? My husband will definately go to court, that is for sure. But why must she get away with it? She knew damn well he was married, and a father of a little girl of 5 years. AND, this is the second family she broke up. I need to know, from someone who actually went through something like this, is it worth to take her to court? Did you and were you successful?