Just to clarify - when you mention fasting, my understanding is that it is from sunrise to sunset. Is that correct?
So you can eat during the night i.e. from sunset to sunrise?
Feeling sick after 4 days of fasting during the day would in all likelihood be due to fluctuations in blood-sugar. And the only way to deal with that is, as you know, by eating something.
According to
http://www.islamfortoday.com/ramadan01.htm, the following exemptions are made to SAWM:
Quote:
WHO IS EXEMPT FROM SAWM?
Fasting is mandatory on every Muslim who is sane, adult, able and resident. The following exemptions apply:
1. the insane;
2. children who are not adolescent yet;
3. the elderly and chronically ill for whom fasting is unreasonably strenuous; Such persons are required to feed at least one poor person every day in Ramadan for which he or she has missed fasting.
4. pregnant women and nursing may postpone the fasting at a later time;
5. the ill and the travellers can also defer their fasting.
Allah says in the Qur'an, Surah Al-Baqara:
'But if anyone is ill, or on a journey, the prescribed period should be made up by days later. Allah intends every facility for you; He does not want to put you to difficulties.'
6. Women during the period of menstruation or of post childbirth confinement. Fasting during these periods is forbidden and should be made up later, a day for a day.
Again, from Wikipedia we get the following at
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fasting:
Quote:Although fasting is fard (obligatory), exceptions are made for persons in particular circumstances:
* Prepubescent children; though some parents will encourage their children to fast earlier for shorter periods, so the children get used to fasting.
* Serious illness; the days lost to illness will have to be made up after recovery.
* If one is traveling but one must make up any days missed upon arriving at one's destination.
* Women who are pregnant or nursing.
* A woman during her menstrual period; although she must count the days she missed and make them up at the end of Ramadan.
* An ill person or old person who is not physically able to fast. They should donate the amount of a normal person's diet for each day missed if they are financially capable.
* A mentally ill person.
So if you're worried about your baby, there ARE provisions made to safeguard your (joint) health and your own peace-of-mind, which should help you to deal with this particularly stressful time - after all, mothers are genetically programmed to protect their children, and your worry is a result of this programming and of the love you bear towards your unborn child.
Most importantly, a happy mother is good for the child.
May you experience a blessed Ramadan, and remember that our thoughts and prayers are with you in this time, whatever your decision.