Mark, not only women can get restraining orders...

A friend just procured one against his ex-wife. If you want to see "spitting mad", you should see THAT particular lady now. Quite impressive, actually - who knew a woman could get THAT angry at being told to leave her ex-husband, his new wife, and their 6-month-old baby the hell alone, and to stop harassing them all with immediate effect?http://forum.parent24.com/Default.aspx?g=postmessage&t=1594&f=59

The restraining order was quite simple to get - and it was granted based on his ex-wife's continual and unceasing efforts to belittle him in front of his (their) children, to insult him both verbally and via electronic media (SMS's and emails) and to alienate him from his new wife via lies and continual interference and meddling, and on her never-ending financial demands which, despite having settled according to the terms of the divorce agreement years ago, and despite legal agreements to the contrary, just keep on coming.

Not even a court-sanctioned parenting plan (joint custody, alternate weeks, school fees and medical costs shared, all other costs for each party's own account) has been able to stop her shenanigans - hence the restraining order.

Oh, and guess what her first reaction was on receiving the restraining order? She threatened him with litigation, both via her attorney and via SMS's and emails! It looks like some people (and their attorneys) just don't understand that the law now works BOTH ways - it's not just on the side of the ex-wife any more.


It's time to stop trying to be nice, and to invoke the full might of the law. The law is there for a reason - to protect the children. Your being nice and trying to accommodate your ex-wife's behaviour isn't doing your children any good - you're actually allowing your ex-wife to perpetrate child-abuse. Use whatever facilities the law provides in order to stop this, before you have to face your children 10 years from now, asking you "But WHY, daddy, WHY didn't you try to protect us, WHY didn't you take us away from her?"

Do you REALLY believe your children are safe with her, a woman who uproots and moves to a different city with a boyfriend of 2 months, basically on a whim? Do you REALLY believe, given the childish, irrational decisions she is continually making, that she is capable of making the RIGHT decisions regarding your children and their safety? Do you REALLY believe that she is setting anything like an acceptable example to your children?

It's now up to you - the Children's Act of 2010 has given you certain rights, rights that a lot of men fought really hard for. It's time for you to use those rights - they're worthless if they're not exercised.


I wish you all the best in this endeavour - it's not going to be easy, but it WILL be worth it.

The courts have people that investigate the case. They end up finding them eventually.

Update:

Apparently if you just decided to take the kids out of school and move , you should not forget to get the transfer papers for the next school first.

The school she is trying to get the girls into contacted the previous school to obtain those transfer docs and politely passed on all the moms new details to the old school who in turn passed those onto to me and the investigating police officer.

So thankfully i know where they are now and so does the SAP. But before they contact her they would like to get all their ducks in a row to make the best case for me.

Time is of the essence. You have parental responsibility for those children and your ex has failed in her duty to keep you advised of all developments in the children's lives, to encourage and facilitate reasonable contact between you and the children (contact with the non resident parent is in the best interests of the child) and, depending on how you reached agreement (or not, as the case may be) in respect of where the children live and when and for how long they have contact, your ex is also likely to be in breach of a court order, which is the offence of contempt of court. You should make application immediately to a Court for residence of the children, on the basis of your ex wife's implacable hostility to contact. In obstructing your contact with the children, your ex wife is not fulfilling her parental responsibility to act in the best interests of the children, putting her own needs first and this could, depending on all the surrounding circumstances, amount to emotional abuse of the children.