At the moment you dont want the baby but by 3 months you will get attached. I suggest you have a long and hard thought about this. Friends and family and ofcoruse the man that made you pregnant should be there and to give advice. Perhaps they can help you to decide on what to do.

The best advice I can think of is that you get to a doctor as soon as possible to find out how far along you are. Then take at least a couple of days to consider your options. Good luck, this is such a difficult situation, you must be very anxious.

I'd suggest speaking to your husband/boyfriend about it. Even though you are carrying the baby, he also has a right to know, does he not?

And if you feel you have to hide it from him...well, that's not very healthy for your relationship.

This child is a gift from God. What you choose to do with it is YOUR gift to GOD.

GAWSH!!!Hard decision. I terminated a child I wasnt ready for, and trust me I went through emotional hell. I have 3 now and I dote on them and would do anything 4 them. so it's simple lovey, think about it. dnt bring a child into the world that you cant love with every fibre of your being. that's all I can say. rather terminate if you dont think you will not love that child - because kids dont need money - they need unconditional, limitless love.

Hi, I gave a baby up for adoption when I was 17, kept a son when I was 22 had an abortioan when I was 25, then went on to have another two sons. I have been belssed in that the son I gave up has come back into my life so I know have 4 sons, whom I adore. Heres the thing, much as I am very happy that thngs have turned out the way they have I wouldnt wish the 21 years waiting to find out if the adoption was the right choice, on any one. Abortion gets my vote, motherhood is frightening at the best of times, doing it alone is complicated,limmiting, you just cant be sure what will happen. My last born, of course my baby and most spoiltest beast ever has autism, censory intigration disorder and a genetic blood disease leaving him prone to unstopable nose bleeds which we have been living with since he was 6 months old. He is home tutoured.

If you are thinking that you will make a complete family one day once you already are a family with this child, think again, the stats are low on this happening. I have tried repeatedly to make this happen, all my children have different fathers, very unusual for my racial profile I realise, even with what one would concider a privelaged set of genes its too hard a game to play. Putting some childrens needs second, as a mother you are expected to do this in a second attempt at family life. So my gift to you is this, wait untill you are sure you want to do it alone forever.If you can come to a peacefull place in your soul that allows you to give up entirely the idea of the perfect family, then dont do it. If you are unsure that you want this child, you are unsure of your relationship and unsure of the future, not a time to gamble with someone elses life. The guilt is unbearable,take it from a crone like me. Good luck.

i had the same reaction with my first pregnancy... it is not easy... as a single mom i have now met the man of my dreams and we are having a baby... my son is 2 and the best thing i have ever done.... i wouldnt change a thing

think long and hard about it.. that is my advice.. have you told the Father?

But it is your choice dont let anyone tell you otherwise okay?

Hi there, I felt the same way when I was pregnant with my son. I even wished for a miscarriage. I even went for sonars every week just to be sure. I was happily married. So, I totally understand. My reason was because I've had an extremely difficult pregnancy with my daughter and just did not want to go through the same hell again. I hated the morning sickness and I had it for the full 9 months. I was working as a consultant and feeling sick everyday was horrible, especially with having to run workshops, etc. BUT I am glad nothing happened to my baby. He is 4 years now and the light of my life. He is so funny and makes me smile. Your baby will change your life forever. I think the fact that you're dealing with your feelings is great. Do not suppress them. Go speak to a psychologist or someone. There is a reason for everything in our lives.

Ladies and gentlemen Thank you very for all the advice and gentle care that you have given. And to all those who battle to have a baby I feel your pain (I have friends and family who like you are also battling)and I'm terribly sorry that there are ppl like me out there who would rather not go thru with the preggies.

The thing is I already have two girls (that is how I know that I'm going to very attached in no time. For now my periods date is just 5days late but I know my body) and I have really weighed my options and termination really makes sense. I'm currently not so good financially and that to me posses a serious threat to my childrens future. Like any parent I want the very best for them. As for me, my own life plans for my age don't have a small baby in them and I feel I will not be able to unconditionally love the baby as I would have compromised and scrifised so much by keeping the baby.
And yes at the end of the day I'm the one who has to be preggies, have the baby and raise the baby........I truely enjoyed doing that with my kids and would like to keep the memories that wonderful.
I know that some day I will meet my maker and I will have to answer for actions and decisions yet I trust that my maker will forgive and not judge (seeing things from where I was standing when I took that decision)

Once again thank you very much for being a caring group and honestly advising according to you own different situations and not being judgemental of what I'm going thru.

Tons of love
may you continue doing so for others out there.

Could I just add that I to had an abortion as I just didnt want another child for many reasons. My hubby and I sat down and decided this is what was best for us in the long term and never once - have I regretted the decision. It was 100% the right choice for me. If abortion is what you feel is the best for you and your current children - then do it without regret. xxx