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#1 Posted : Friday, October 08, 2010 12:31:44 PM(UTC)
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I hope Gary can help me out here.

My ex has always been a bad payer in maintenance. He is in arears at the moment and the courts are really taking their time with my application with non payment and a garnishee order. I found out this morning that my ex is planning to relocate to England. Has his passport ready and waiting. My problem is this. He is already a bad payer at the moment and lives within my area, im struggling with the court to actually get him to pay now he is going to a whole new continent?! What happens if he doesnt pay? Is there anything that i need to do incase he tries to run and hide? Im quite worried about this and any information about this would be appreciated!

Thanking you!
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#2 Posted : Friday, October 08, 2010 2:55:32 PM(UTC)
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PM Gary - double-click on his 'handle' (GaryFathers4Justice) and then click on the PM button - or visit www.f4j.co.za.
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#3 Posted : Friday, October 08, 2010 4:19:07 PM(UTC)
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Hi, Little problem,
Britain and SA have a bilateral co operation agreement pertaining to all legal matters. This I know is of little comfort to you if he will not even cooperate in SA.
Leigh Benny of 702 had a lawyer on her show 2 weeks ago, about maintenance and who is responsible for what, she sounded like one of the very few lawyers who actually have a clue on maintenance related matters – I am sure if you contact 702 they would be able to point you in the right direction.
Keno of 702 had another lawyer while Redi was away on honeymoon that specialises in forensic audits for maintenance related matters.
The reason I tell you this is that I do not actually know what you could do in this matter where the father is not prepared to co operate in SA – and you don’t need to be a psychic to see what’s going to happen once he has left.
You would need to investigate with this lawyer as to what your options are – one would point to him having to possible to set up a trust fund or disposing of a large asset. I do not know?
Please let us know of your progress as we would be keen to know of the outcome.
Feel free to contact me via our website on www.f4j.co.za for additional support and advice.
All the best
Gary
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FATHERS-4-JUSTICE SOUTH AFRICA
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#4 Posted : Friday, October 08, 2010 4:46:06 PM(UTC)
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My ex relocated also. You won't get anything once he is gone. A long hard fight might not help also. But thats the best you can do.
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#6 Posted : Friday, October 08, 2010 4:58:03 PM(UTC)
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Hi I suggest you get a lawyer! I have an ex who did the same 8 years ago and he has not paid what is due but the funny thing is he can afford to fly all over for holidays and to see his friends and by the way he has not seen or contacted his child in 8 years. Fore warned is fore armed, get your lawyer onto this cast PRONTO!!!! Best of luck - AB
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#7 Posted : Friday, October 08, 2010 4:58:04 PM(UTC)
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You bred the kid, you feed it, why are you leaching? move on he is your EX.
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#8 Posted : Friday, October 08, 2010 5:04:32 PM(UTC)
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d'oh!
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#9 Posted : Friday, October 08, 2010 5:09:29 PM(UTC)
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Become self sufficient, and earn your own money, so you don't have to rely on him
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#10 Posted : Friday, October 08, 2010 5:24:55 PM(UTC)
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Cut your losses & move on, you can try and waste more money to get him to pay but reality is, if he doesn’t pay there is nothing they can do without lengthy legal battle. All in all cost to benefit dost not justify it.
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#11 Posted : Friday, October 08, 2010 5:43:29 PM(UTC)
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How old are children at the moment?
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#12 Posted : Friday, October 08, 2010 6:06:07 PM(UTC)
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The brits take an extremely dim view of father not paying mainenance for his children, he would do well to remember that. IF you have any hassles approach a lawyer.
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#13 Posted : Friday, October 08, 2010 6:50:14 PM(UTC)
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Angel My father did the same thing. My mother has to use the magistrates courts. They get all the relivant docs to the UK and once they get a hold of him they will make him pay. I think you should speak to the magistrate who is in charge of maintenence and see what you can do before he leaves.
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#14 Posted : Friday, October 08, 2010 7:26:24 PM(UTC)
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The lady asked for help in a direction.
All everyone has quoted are bullshit, why wasting yours time looking for attention and reply with nonsense if you cannot help
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#15 Posted : Friday, October 08, 2010 9:08:44 PM(UTC)
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The lady asked for help in a direction.
All everyone has quoted are bullshit, why wasting yours time looking for attention and reply with nonsense if you cannot help


You know what an AH like is allways so right - why dont you disapear under the slime pool rock you craweld out from
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#16 Posted : Saturday, October 09, 2010 2:35:17 AM(UTC)
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what passport is he travelling on..if he is on a SA passport he will require a visa. I suggest you contact the British consulate and ask there advice especially if there is a case pending in SA. gOOD LUCK
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#17 Posted : Saturday, October 09, 2010 1:56:21 PM(UTC)
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Hi
I immigrated to the UK and my children were in SA, you need to find out where he is going to be staying in the uk and once you know, the South African case worker needs to contact the local magistrates court to arrange for maintenance to be paid direct to the local Child Support agency, their website www.csa.gov.uk is worth having a look, the uk laws are slightly different to the SA mainenance laws so best get yourself up to speed with these and also the way they calculate the ammount to pay. dont be disheartened about the maintenace you will be able to claim from him even if he is in the uk.
If you need any further info give me a south on potter_551@hotmail.com
Thanx
Harry
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#5 Posted : Saturday, October 09, 2010 11:13:00 PM(UTC)
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My ex relocated back to England 27 years ago. I was left the other side of the world with 2 children no job no suport system in fact nothing much. It was the best thing he did for us. I no longer had him undermining me spoiling the children and generally making our lives hell.
The best is to go forward knowing that what ever you do is despite him not because he helped. It does wonders for your self esteem. Your children will also be better off in the long run.
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#18 Posted : Sunday, October 10, 2010 12:35:13 PM(UTC)
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Earn your own money instead of depending on your EX. Women just can never move on huh? Losers!
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#19 Posted : Sunday, October 10, 2010 6:47:54 PM(UTC)
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Get a life! Why don't you wish him well and hope that he gets a good job that side. Instead of stressing about the maintenance, you could invite him over dinner and discuss the maintenance of the children. Doesn't it occur to you that he may also be interested in supporting his kids? I suggest you wish him well and be supportive instead of preempting bad circumstance. Only initiate legal measures when they are absolutely necessary. Try also to improve your financial margins to prepare for a period he may not provide support since initially it may be hard for him as he tries to settle down. This move may even be good for you since pounds are have more value in SA!
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#20 Posted : Sunday, October 10, 2010 6:48:25 PM(UTC)
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Women choose to be with these men and to have children with them !!! If you choose guys for the wrong reason and this happens you have to deal with it ... take some responsibility for your choices. Love is money!!! It is always the main subject in these conversations ...
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