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#1 Posted : Monday, October 18, 2010 3:53:16 PM(UTC)
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Good day,
Myself and my husband has gone through the clearing process at the ACVV. At first this was meant to include adoption but due to the new Act the ACVV are no longer allowed to handle adoptions and their process is no longer accepted. We are however registered as an Emergency Care home as well as Foster care.

Problem are however that we are living in a small town which are still regarded as a very primitive area with extremely high values. People in our community are very aware of shame and anything that might bring shame, such as a school child getting pregnant, are very quickly concealed. Grandparents tends to take care of their children’s children when the children is neglected. This in effect means that very little, if any children ever becomes available for care in our region. In the one hand this is a very good thing but in the same time it is extremely sad for people like us who so badly long to have a little one in our house.

We are also very well informed about the fact that white babies are rare but we cannot help hoping for a miracle. We also believe that nothing is impossible when placed in the hands of GOD and if he wants us to have a little one to care for it will happen no matter the odds. We do however also know that we must play our part in making our names known as potential foster care/adoptive parents.

This brings me to the reason for my message This is in actual fact a desperate cry for help. I would sincerely appreciate any guidance you can give me with regards to achieving our dream of having a little angel to care for. We are looking for a white baby between the age of new born up to 2 years no matter the gender. Even if this means that we will just be a house of care until the parents are deemed ready to take care of their child again. We have so much to give and the biggest thereof will be love. We have no interest in getting paid any allowance to do so. Our only wish is to play a positive part in the upbringing of a child in need.

I hope you will receive this message in good faith and understand that it was send out of a desperate need and with loads of hope. Even if you might not have any answers or guidance to give I want to ask you to kindly spend a few moments in prayer for us. God promised us that prayer by groups are extremely forceful and we would appreciate your contribution so much.

Kind regards,
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#3 Posted : Tuesday, October 19, 2010 12:24:41 PM(UTC)
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U are in my prayers! Good luck and hope you get your little angel soon!!!!!Pray
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#4 Posted : Tuesday, October 19, 2010 1:08:34 PM(UTC)
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y specifically a WHITE baby? i think you best spend your time and money on grammar lessons or maybe spend your time on a whites only website.
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#5 Posted : Tuesday, October 19, 2010 1:41:00 PM(UTC)
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Hi chrissie3,
When I placed this message I logged in as a guest and not with my User Id.

Thank you so much for your best wishes.

God Bless
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#6 Posted : Tuesday, October 19, 2010 1:53:05 PM(UTC)
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Its a shame that you are looking at colour .... All babies are the same ... when will people see pass the colour issue... Was Adam & Eve Black , White or Asian ? please answer this as this behaviour is annoying " I am looking for a White Baby " People must grow up in the their morale standings.
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#7 Posted : Tuesday, October 19, 2010 2:36:32 PM(UTC)
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I am extremely sorry if I offended anyone by wanting to adopt a white baby. This most certainly was not what I wanted to do. Maybe if I can explain something to you, I hope you will have a better understanding for my position. As previously mentioned we are living in a very small community where unfortunately people are still very pre-ocupied by their primitive ideas.

To tell you the honest truth we do not have personal preferences and would have gladly accepted any race baby. This can be confirmed by our social worker if you do not believe me. We were however warned by our local Social department not to do so seeing that they had to failures with similiar adoptions where the parents were isolated from the community and had to move away. The white people in our town cannot understand cross colour adoptions and the coloured people also critisize this by asking who you think you are for taking one of their babies to bring up.

Myself and my husband discussed this in detail and decided against cross colour adoption as we do not wish to put any child in a situation like this. It would break my heart into pieces if my child have to go to school crying and come home crying due to people who are narrow minded. I want a child to love and provide with a positive future. What will we achieve to be selfish and think about our own needs first? We will end up bringing up our child in a misserable situation. We want to make it better not worse.

I hope that you will have compassion for our situation and no longer make me out to be a monster because I most definitely is not. To me a child is a child is a child. Colour has nothing to do with feelings, behaviours and humanity.

I also wish to humbly ask for your forgiveness with regards to the grammar and spelling. I am actually afrikaans speaking.
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#8 Posted : Tuesday, October 19, 2010 2:41:25 PM(UTC)
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All children in need of a home deserve a home.
Maybe those with negative remarks, should look at the basic fact that a child is wanted and not their own negative racist remarks.
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#9 Posted : Tuesday, October 19, 2010 2:44:07 PM(UTC)
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What is WRONG with wanting a WHITE baby ??????????????? I strongly believe that children should be brought up in THEIR OWN CULTURE !!!!!!!!!!!! YES, you can say what you want, but you cannot bring up a child outside it's own culture.

It is not fair for a zulu child to be raised in a NG Kerk, Johova witness or AWB environment and neither is it fair for him to be raised with white rituals instead of his own cultural ones.

I would hate my child to be raised as a zulu for instance and having him subjected to ritual slaughtering of animals when I prefer to believe in treating animals humanely.

So yes, if you want to call it "colour" instead of culture, feel free, but to each his own and anyone who thinks they can change it and be fair to the child is missing the plot.

Let's be honest, do you think a white child will be welcomed and it's adoptive parents praised in Soweto? Do you honestly believe that a white child would fit into a traditional rural environment and feel comfortable?

I think their would be more rasism from the black side towards a white adoptive child, as I have seen more acceptance for black children into so called white environments, but I can assure you the opposite is definitely not true.

Would I want my white daughter subjected to dancing naked in the annual virgin reed dance? I don't think so. Would you want your white adoptive child to report you to the SPCA when you slaughter your cows? I don't think so !!!!

Give a child the opportunity to grow up within it's own culture and let him choose later what path he wants to follow. Is that not fair?
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#11 Posted : Tuesday, October 19, 2010 3:12:11 PM(UTC)
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Point Taken , We now understand your situation , Take care , all the best in looking for a baby , May God be with you
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#12 Posted : Tuesday, October 19, 2010 5:37:28 PM(UTC)
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I'm black and I also think that there is nothing wrong with this couple wanting a white baby. It will look more like them and maybe they're not prepared to be politically correct nor deal with the endless harassment that can come from such situations. Lady, you shouldn't feel apologetic for wanting what you want.

People, stop being judgemental and let others be.

Good luck to you and your husband and God bless :-)
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#13 Posted : Tuesday, October 19, 2010 8:18:23 PM(UTC)
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Hi guys
I agree that one should stick to one's own culture. It's hard enough explaining to a child that he's adopted, imagine having to do that at, say, 2 years old, because the children at the creche start teasing him? Not fair.
There is an interracial marriage in my family, and while some accept it, others refuse to see them. I am neutral on this matter. If they decide to spend their lives together, fine. But what about the children? Black or white?
I think one must think of the child's future, and not being teased is definitely a big part of having a happy child.
Good luck! Have you tried egg donors? (sorry to ask, I know it's personal)
Godd bless!
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#15 Posted : Wednesday, October 20, 2010 4:17:17 PM(UTC)
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The problem is me. I had a historectomy at 27 due to my uterus turning over and tearing apart. i also had a lot of bubble like growths on it. We did try surrogacy (my sister did it for us and in fact are still willing to do so) but unfortunately it was not successful. We had to pay thousands of rands and had nothing for it. We then decided that we do not care who the biological parents is as long as we have the priviledge of having a child to care for and be called mommy and daddy by. We made the decision to rather open ourselves up to provide for a child who really need us than going the surrogacy route again. It is extremely expensive, emotionally very chalenging, etc.

This year February we started with our screening and finished with it in June. Last month we had our final home visit and now we are just waiting, praying and hoping.
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#19 Posted : Thursday, October 21, 2010 8:54:30 PM(UTC)
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I am a mom and I can only imagine the longing you must have in your heart. I so hope you get your little angle. There is one very lucky little child out there if they get to be yours!
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#20 Posted : Friday, October 22, 2010 9:30:54 AM(UTC)
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This couple wants a white baby, and immediately the "racists" jump on them - why is that? Should All couples who are looking to adopt automatically just take a baby of colour, anything but white?? If one is looking to adopt in his or her race/nationality/colour why is that a problem (specifically it seems only for caucasians; - white people to you)??
To those who immediately jumped on the race card this question: do white people owe blacks some sort of life-debt, that we now have to look after their abandoned childred forever? Lets discard all white babys and focus exclusively on caring for those discarded black bundles..

Ma'am (original poster of this thread), if you do not come right going through 'official' channels, may I suggest the option of contacting mothers (dare I say in white squatter camps) directly? I have been (was) involved in a group who offered their services to the mothers of children directly, whereafter they (willingly!!) give up their children to be raised by more affluent couples, you will be amazed by the amount of mothers in dire situations who only want to give their children the best by realising they themselves are not in a position to do so.. Seeing the rewards of a young person leaving school/university all thanks to their donor parents, then caring for their blood family and living fullfilling lives - All thanks to unselfish persons (like yourself!) is indescribable...

Best wishes to you, somewhere out there is a (caucasian) baby deserving of your love and his RIGHT to a better life!
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#16 Posted : Saturday, November 27, 2010 10:02:34 PM(UTC)
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hi can u pls tell me who u went threw for the adoption pls
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#21 Posted : Tuesday, November 30, 2010 2:18:16 PM(UTC)
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Why do people always have to bring up a racial issue. These people are looking to bring up a baby. Who cares if they want a particular colour! At least it is one less child out there who can be given a chance. I think a person has the right to choose. If you choose to bring up a child of a certain race your reasons for doing so do not have to be supported. Just taking in a baby is good enough. People are so concerned with racial issues that they waste their time focusing on negative things instead of focusing on positive things. The issue is here that a less fortunate child can get a proper, caring, loving home.

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