I think it will be difficult finding someone willing to go for a closed adoption, giving up ones baby is an extremely hard thing to do and knowing you can never see or know what happens to that child just makes it that much harder.

I ask you to think back to when you were pregnant with your daughter, do you think there is even a chance you could have given up your baby girl knowing that you would quite possibly never see her again? I would strongly recommend you discuss this scenario with your daughter, it might make make her think differently and be more ok with the idea of an open adoption.

I would also like to ask why they only want a white child? I would presume its because they want the child to look like them so no one has to know he or she is not their biological child. This may seem rude, but if I am correct this is a completely selfish reason. There are millions of children of different ethnic backgrounds in this world who have been abandoned and are all capable of feeling love, and all deserve to be loved just the same.

I would also hate to think the idea of a closed adoption with a caucasian child is so they can lie to the child about who they really are. If I found out I was adopted after a lifetime of believing I was biological to my parents I have no idea how I could handle that- but I know I would be extremely angry.

Believe me when i say I am not suggesting any of this to be true, but if it is, or you at least suspect it is, I urge to strongly address this with your daughter.

I also feel that adopting a baby that is the same race as yourself is the best option.My daugter married a white man that was married to an Indian girl and they had a son together.Unfortunatly the mother died when the baby was only 8 months old.The boy looks just like an Indian boy and not at all like the father.They have children of their own now and everyone is always asking strange questions about the boy and he does not exactly fit in at school.He is small now,but children are very nasty.They will start making fun of him sooner or later.South Africa are still far away from "APARTHEID"...Best of luck with your adoption and I also think a close adoption is the best.You want to have a normal life with your baby and a mother intefering all the time is just a nuisence,but I would also advise you to tell you child as soon as she can understand that you adopted her and that you love her as if she was your own.Teenage years are defnitly not the best time to tell them something like that.

Good day everyone,

First of all, there are precious few white school girls 'looking to give their babies up for adoption'. White schoolgirls' parents either raise the child together with their daughter or the girls get abortions. The girls who do carry fullterm and want to place their babies for adoption work through a system e.g. Abba Adoptions and Abba Adoptions have waiting lists as long as your arm. Ask me, I know, as we were desperately looking to adopt, went through the screening process with TWO private social workers and paid lots and lots of money. Our angel (white baby boy) was born in November 2009 and were placed in my arms half a minute after he was born - and he hasn't left our arms again.

It is NOT an easy process, it is NOT a cheap process and it's NOT a good idea to adopt just because you can't fall pregnant. Your HEART should be right for adoption and with all due respect to your pain and anguish, you are not going to find a baby on a public forum posting that you want to adopt.

Go to a registered PRIVATE social worker and go through the correct channels. A state social worker will only be able to help you if you are looking for a mixed race and/or black baby.

People do not have the right to judge a couple because they long for a white baby. My boy was adopted on a semi-open adoption system, meaning that we keep contact with the social worker sending photo's memo's etc. twice a year and she then relays this to the biological mom. We have no contact with her whatsoever. My child will know where he came from and he will know everything about his biological as well as his adopted family. It is NOT a shame to be adopted and I will never, ever hide it from my child. This is not the dark ages, you can lovingly prepare your child from very little to accept and embrace the fact that he was placed in your family in a very, very special way.

Good luck to everyone, my heart goes out to you, but there IS hope - our Samuel is proof of that!!!


Hannah

I do know of someone who is looking to have their baby girl adopted. She is a healthy white lady and has no funds to support the child after the Father left her. It was too late for her to terminate the pregnancy as she only found out at 12 weeks and they said it was not possible, so she tried to work things out with the father of the child, but he has since met another woman and subsequently left her. He is not interested in the baby. The baby has not yet been born, but she has decided that she does not want keep the child for the sake of the child 's well being. She would like to give the child up for adoption to a financially secure, stable loving married white couple through a closed adoption process.

This really is not a joke. Unless you are actually interested in adopting a baby gilr, please DO NOT CONTACT ME.

I am enquiring on behalf of a friend who is really serious about adoption. She has been on a waiting list for a long time. Please contact me to chat about this.

Adoption laws in South Africa are outlined by the Child Care Act of 1983, which require social workers and adoption agencies to "give due consideration" to language, religion and culture when matching prospective parents with children.


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