Wow, good luck. My son is 2 years old in April. Adopted him privately. I knew his bm, and I got a private social worker to help with the "process". I don’t know if the one or the other is easier or better. All I know and believe in my heart is that if it is meant to be - it will happen.
The fees are more than "state side", but my social worker charged by the hour, so I knew what the fees would be as we went along. I also decided to allocate an amount extra for the bm (to visit the social worker, more than required, just to make sure she was prepared and emotionally aware of what she was doing).
I have been thinking of adopting another child, but maybe it is to soon (wounds still to fresh), maybe I will change my mind in a few years.
The adoption process is less than fun, but the reward for your affords is so great that all-in-all it is well worth it.
Again best of luck, and may your second child come soon.
Luke's Mom