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cherrylgounden
#1 Posted : Monday, January 10, 2011 1:27:41 PM(UTC)
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hi there, i have to adopt again after almost nine years. i have contacted child welfare in durban and they have given me a list of requirements. i don't know how long this process will take from scratch, but we had our daughter after 4 months of applying. how much does private adoption differ from going to the welfare? what are the fee differences. i am so eager now and i just want to get the ball rolling. my daughter is going to be 9 and desperately wants a sibling. please help with some success stories.
ludditelass
#2 Posted : Tuesday, January 11, 2011 4:12:22 PM(UTC)
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Hi! How wonderful that you're going to adopt again. I am Mummy to two boys - both adopted. Things have changed in the last nine years - even the laws about adoption have changed in that time. The process is more rigorous and includes things like police clearance. It is not possible to put a time frame to the process but the sooner you get all the paperwork done, the sooner you can get on the waiting list. The main difference between private adoption and child welfare adoption is money. Private adoption can be hugely expensive whereas child welfare charges for their services on a sliding scale according to income. We adopted both our children through child welfare. The other issue can be that social workers in child welfare are often very over-worked with huge caseloads and now a whole lot more admin. Some friends who have adopted privately have said the process seemed quicker than child welfare but that may just have been because they put very few restrictions on their adoption requests. The more restrictive you are (for example if you specify gender, religion, race or any other variable) the longer you are likely to wait. I know a couple who applied to adopt at the same time as us more than 7 years ago who are still waiting because they specified race, gender and religion amongst other things. Good luck! Having a sibling has been the best thing for both our boys!
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#3 Posted : Wednesday, January 19, 2011 10:38:19 AM(UTC)
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Wow, good luck. My son is 2 years old in April. Adopted him privately. I knew his bm, and I got a private social worker to help with the "process". I don’t know if the one or the other is easier or better. All I know and believe in my heart is that if it is meant to be - it will happen.

The fees are more than "state side", but my social worker charged by the hour, so I knew what the fees would be as we went along. I also decided to allocate an amount extra for the bm (to visit the social worker, more than required, just to make sure she was prepared and emotionally aware of what she was doing).

I have been thinking of adopting another child, but maybe it is to soon (wounds still to fresh), maybe I will change my mind in a few years.

The adoption process is less than fun, but the reward for your affords is so great that all-in-all it is well worth it.

Again best of luck, and may your second child come soon.
Luke's Mom
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