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sagree01
#1 Posted : Thursday, March 17, 2011 12:24:09 PM(UTC)
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Just need to know if there are any other moms out there that have the same problem as me....I have a teenage boy 13 and I AM SO GLAD HE HASNT TOUCHED PORN OR SMOKING OR DRINKING BUT I JUST CANT HANDLE THE BACK CHATTING AND THE EXPLANATION THAT GOES WITH IT FROM HIM....why does everything have to be done in his space and tym, and he acts like there is no urgency in life especially in the morning, it takes forever to make his bed but can take up to 30 min grooming himself...does it stop.....or gets worse or is there HELP!!!!!
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#2 Posted : Thursday, March 17, 2011 12:32:49 PM(UTC)
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Hi there,
I know that this doesn't help one little bit, but I have an 11 year old girl, this attitude that they have is driving me insane! How did they get so wise all of a sudden?
Just know that parents of tweens and teens everywhere are going through the same thing, you are not alone. :D xx
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#3 Posted : Thursday, March 17, 2011 12:50:00 PM(UTC)
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LOL....
yes I wonder how that happened....they either know it all or know everything.
What I cant understand is that have we as parents changed so much that we are experiencing this with our kids or have our kids just smarter than us when we were that age...I know that I could never talk to my parents or family the way my son talks to us, and what makes it worse is that every issue becomes a fight and you get so tired of all that shouting..it just takes so much out of me and I also have toddler that needs me .
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#4 Posted : Thursday, March 17, 2011 3:49:41 PM(UTC)
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I suppose we do want them to be independent thinkers and not blindly accept authority. But it can be wearying at times :)
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#5 Posted : Thursday, March 17, 2011 4:19:43 PM(UTC)
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My almost 12 year old boy is being lazy at school and has failed a number of tests so we removed his privledges, he thinks we are violating his human right
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sagree01
#6 Posted : Thursday, March 17, 2011 4:53:06 PM(UTC)
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Strange enuf my son never gets homework.....I think he is the only child that does'nt, when I check his books, he has all sorts of excuses why there was so little wrk done a particular day...so what do i do.....u cant always phone the teacher.
AND I also tried taking away priviledges and I get shouting and screaming and i am the worst mother ever.
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#7 Posted : Thursday, March 17, 2011 5:05:16 PM(UTC)
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My son will be 11yrs, and he drives me insane at times, the moment I tell him to take his books out or if he cannot do something the face blows up and the eyes pop out, he get angry for everything and it infuriates me. I am so fed up with his attitude and the constant sulking, if I speak nicely he ignores it but if I raise my voice then he gets angry. So u see u not alone. I also think that when I was his age, what we where told to do, we listened and carried out the instructions without attitude, but these days it seems as if our kids want to dominate us.
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#8 Posted : Friday, March 18, 2011 9:36:27 AM(UTC)
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GovenderS wrote:
My son will be 11yrs, and he drives me insane at times, the moment I tell him to take his books out or if he cannot do something the face blows up and the eyes pop out, he get angry for everything and it infuriates me. I am so fed up with his attitude and the constant sulking, if I speak nicely he ignores it but if I raise my voice then he gets angry. So u see u not alone. I also think that when I was his age, what we where told to do, we listened and carried out the instructions without attitude, but these days it seems as if our kids want to dominate us.



Actions are the only thing that he will understand. Firstly boys do not sit down and talk like you can with a female so they have to be doing something before you can get them to tell you if their is something bothering them.

So firstly take him out, hike, walk, to mini golf, anything where he is with you and can talk whilst doing something. Then let it come from him. You can ask him in a friendly way if something is bothering him.

Once you have established his problem you can work with him.

Tell him the night before that as he is growing up, he must now take out his books, see to his homework, and repack his books for school the next day.

He must then take the consequences from his teachers if he does not do it. Meanwhile you tell him that you have every confidence in him to be consistent in getting his work done and in on time. Good luck! It may take a bit of time and patience but you will get there.
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#9 Posted : Friday, March 18, 2011 10:44:55 AM(UTC)
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Thank you for that advice...will definitely try it out....being a long weekend..we can have a mother and son day.
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