allnet wrote:
most women deny access to fathers and after a while they give up, would not surprise me you di the same then blame him for not being around. Its called alienation and you women are excellent at such things. The decent thing you should do is to trace him and ask him, is that too much to ask???
My sincerest condolences to you as I can only assume you have been victim of alienation and I do not condone it in any way or form. Unfortunately you cannot assume the lady who posted this question is actually guilty of doing so and lashing out at her is not fair to her especially if she is not.
There are sadly fathers who are simply not interested and who decide they do not want to be in their children's lives. I have begged the father of my child to please commit to being legally identified as our child's dad, have asked numerous times for him to provide visitation times which suit him, have asked him to sit down and draw up a parental plan with me but he refuses. He disappears and then reappears sporadically in and out of our child's life. I invite him to events and he simply does not pitch. He pays no maintenance and still I allow access and try to encourage a relationship. I'm the only one with all the burden and have no support whatsoever but I still try. If you have an answer how to get him involved by all means please let me know. Don't assume you know anyone just because you have been burnt before. I don't lash out at fathers just because my child's dad is not there. There are women out there who try despite the tremendous odds they face for the sake of their kids.