I am married to a man with a child. His child stay with us permanently and only visits the mom every second week and during some school holidays.

I have a silly question. My husband and the mother was engaged years ago. He kept the ring after they broke up. A few months ago she asked for the ring, because she want to keep it for their kid. He gave it to her. I was shocked. I feel that is was wrong. I told him that he should rater asked her to buy the ring from him if she wanted it so badly or he could have sold it. How silly is it going to be when in 10 years time their kid walks around with the ring and tell everyone that it was the ring that her parents got engaged with (but they are both married to someone else now)?

I don't know if I am just jealous, but I feel it was wrong of him to give it to her.

What would your reaction be if something like this happens to you? What should I do? Should I ask him to ask the ring back and if he want the kid to have it, then he can rather sell the ring and buy something else for her.

I know this is a silly question, but it troubles me.

Thank you

I would have felt more threatened by him keeping the ring. The fact that he could give it back to her just like that, tells me that he has no feelings for it and harbours no sentiment for it or their time together. If the mom wants it, let her have it. Technically, it was a gift for her when he proposed, and once you marry and divorce, the husband has no claim on the ring (irrespective of value) because it is seen as a gift, it is not even included in the assets to be divided. What she wants to do with it, is up to her. Sometimes we get silly feelings, once we work out what really bothers us (obviously it is not about the ring) the feeling can be handled. Don't leave it though. Try and figure out what is really bothering you about this.