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Lilith_Skye
#1 Posted : Wednesday, May 25, 2011 3:57:36 PM(UTC)
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I would like some advise on changing my daughter's surname.

I registered her as a single parent, and she has my surname. The biological father currently resides in the UK, and only sees her once a year. He does not always pay maintenance, for instance this year he only paid for February, and not the agreed amount either. He is supposed to phone her once a week, but rarely does, plus she had a major operation 2 weeks ago and he didnt even bother to phone to wish her good luck or afterwards to hear if she's fine.

I am getting married to another man in September, and I would like to change her surname to his, seeing as he looks after her and pays her bills.

How do I go about doing this? Are there any legal boundaries? Like I said, she has my surname and I registered her as a single parent.

Thanks in advaced for the advice.
parent24ed
#2 Posted : Thursday, May 26, 2011 2:53:30 PM(UTC)
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I'm not sure about the legalities, especially with the father being overseas. But he is her acknowledged father, in that he has been paying (some) maintenance. Do you have any reason to think he might object? After all, your child is in any case not on his name?
Lilith_Skye
#3 Posted : Thursday, May 26, 2011 3:52:29 PM(UTC)
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I think he might, because he is forever claimng that he loves her so much and is very upset about the fact that I am with someone else. But i mean, he doesnt support her, doesnt call her, by choice. So what am I supposed to do. He is not being her father, not even trying to. And I would like her to have the name of the person who is raising her and is really caring for her.
TeeRDee
#4 Posted : Tuesday, May 31, 2011 11:38:22 AM(UTC)
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In my experience, trying to take away parental rights of a man cuts him to the core - even if he's not at all involved in the childs life and has never ever made a decision on the childs behalf.

Best advice, go to home affairs and ask. If you are changing yours, it should be a simple name change for your child as well. I still need to go and try and sort out my situation there too! GOOD LUCK.
Chezzabinks
#5 Posted : Tuesday, May 31, 2011 4:39:05 PM(UTC)
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Go and speak to the family court, they are generally very helpful. It is my guess that your new husband will need to adopt your daughter which will require the biological father's permission.
Lilith_Skye
#6 Posted : Wednesday, June 01, 2011 12:50:29 PM(UTC)
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I do not want to take away his parental right. I just want to change her surname.
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