Your kids are suffering from affluenza - you do everything for them, without them every having to lift a finger to help themselves. I'm sorry, but thats YOUR fault. All children need to respect that there are boundaries, and to learn where they are and not to cross them. It might be a bit late now, but you're their parent, not their friend, and they can call child welfare as much as they like, but they're going to have to PROVE that they're being abused, and if they get everything they want like you say, then you have nothing to worry about. What are they going to say? My parents beat me? my parents rape me? My parents dont feed me? Beatings and rape leave marks and they will have to be examined (intimately). Malnutrition also leaves its marks. Time your brats stopped manipulating you...

SEND THEM TO BOARDING SCHOOL AND HOLLIDAY CAMP DONT LET THEM COME HOME PERFECTLY LEGAL .get child welfare on speed dial for your selves

yes, mi parents trust me,and il never take advantage of that.... NEVER!

My daughter is 16 and she met this 26 year old guy on Mxit. Recently he went and picked her up from school after I dropped her off and they spent the day together! I have taken away 3 phones frm her in the past inorder to stop her from going on mxit because I caught her sending very distateful pics on mxit. I bought her a basic phone but she still managed to buy another one from her friends in school.

I have totally lost TRUST and she has lost all her privileges. I now treat her like her 7 year old sister UNTIL she can prove to me she can be TRUSTED. she gets Love, a home,food, schooling, clothing, basics.

I have asked the Police how we should deal with the 26 year old man and they said there was no crime committed because I have no evidence whether sex was involved or not. Surely there must be a law against some freak picking up your child from school without your consent. any ideas please?

If they have welfare on speed-dial then tell them to call welfare. Also let them know that Welfare doesn't take them to youth, works like a personal taxi, pays for mixit, or buys new clothes and they'd end up with second had cast offs that hopefuly might fit. They won't have a cell phone. Won't have their on Rooms or a pc ect. Maybe taking them to do charity work for a day (get the youth involved to do a charity play or have a charity christmas party with donated gifts and such - maybe with your local lions?) so they can see what acctualy happens to welfare kids. They might not be so eager to make that call if they know what is waiting for them.

Aahhhh, yeah, I got this one posted on my bedroom door...almost 20 years ago!! Oh, man, some things never change, and statements such as this should remain for an ETERNITY! LMAO It's only in the last...four years that I really understand and FEEL FOR my parents and what I put them through. Now it's all in reverse and I'm worrying about THEM! I drive by their house just to check up on them, see if they need any help, groceries...You know, things that we might otherwise take for granted with our unhindered mobility. I'm really starting to see their declining health, and I just...worry. I want to help, but i have my own family to care for primarily. I have a 15 yr old, 4 yr old and a 2 yr old. Busy life!

To the girl asking parents to check their child's phone...good on you, that's one good safety measure. The other is most definitely placing time restrictions, and removal of the gadget as a consequence to unbecoming behaviour. This I have done MANY times, and it's amazing what a little discipline does to set your child back on the right path.

We MUST give them shelter, we MUST give them food, we must ensure their safety and well-being, and we MUST provide for all the necessities of life. But you know what? Nowhere does it state that we MUST TRUST them! LMAO It is scientifically PROVEN that the adolescent stage is a time when your previously working neural pathways DISINTEGRATE. Logic goes out the window and emotions tend to take over, as I've witnessed all too often in this household. Your neurons slowly begin to reconnect beginning around 15 yrs, but you will not reach intellectual maturity until a bit later. Couple that complication with the fact that you are still a child living a fairly sheltered life (This is where you THANK YOUR PARENTS PROFUSELY!!!!) and you can see how we parents feel it is vital to maintain control on the homefront. This may mean (le sigh) that you will not get all that you want, but you will get all that you NEED. That, my friend, is of utmost importance, and it is equally important that we strive to teach your generation all about the wants vs. needs balance. Enough of the "Gimme" generation!!! ARGH!!! .... Sorry, guys, brief interlude de madness.... :)

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Parents complaining about teenagers or children in general is like buying a cap gun and then complaining it makes too much noise... If a couple do not realise what they're letting themselves in for when they decide to have kids, they should perhaps not be having kids in the first place.