I HAVE A LITTLE OR BIG PROBLEM WITH MY 7YEAR OLD SON'S FATHER THAT HAS NOT BEEN PART OF HIS LIFE FOR THE PAST 7YRS. HE HAS NEVER SHOWED INTEREST IN THE CHILD ONLY IN ME.I'VE RAISE THE SUBJECT SEVERAL TIMES BUT HE KEEPS BLAMING ME .AS A MOTHER I'VE DONE EVERYTHING I POSIBLITY CAN TO INVOLVE HIM IN MY SONS LIFE BUT HE HAS SHOWN NO INTEREST.THE FIRST TIME HE SAW HIS SON WAS AT THE AGE OF 2 WHICH WAS HIS CHOICE.I'M STILL AT IT TO INVOLVE HIM BUT TO NO AVAILABILITY HE DOESNT CONTRIBUTE IN ANY WAY, NOT EVEN TRYING TO BUILD A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIS SON AND STIL WANT HIS SON TO FOLLOW HIS RELIGION ''ISLAM'' IM A BORN CHRISTAIN THAT CONVERTED TO ISLAM WHEN WE MADE NIKKA IN 2006 BUT HAVE NOT PRACTISE ISLAM FULLY. WE'VE BEEN LIVING APART FOR 2YRS NOW .I HAVE BEEN TAKING THE CHILD TO SEE HIM AS HIS STAYING IN DURBAN FOR THE PAST 6MONTHS ON MY EXPENSES AND STILL NO SUPPORT OR INTERESTED IN THE CHILD AND MY SON ADORE HIS FATHER BUT CAME TO A POINT WHERE HE ALSO SHOW NO INTEREST IN HIS FATHER,BUT WILL TELL YOU THATS HIS DADDY..............

Please stop. You cannot force a relationship between other people, just like you cannot end one. Do not continue to go down to Durban, heap up expenses, all to no avail. Rather explain to your son, that his daddy loves him very much, but have some things he needs to sort out in his head. And that you need to give him time. Going to the dad and the dad refusing the child, results in rejection - over and over and over again. It's worse than staying away. Please stop. Decide what you want. If you still want a relationship with the dad, or not. Take it from there. But don't force either of them into a path. Children are very resilient - and very smart. Your son understands more than you know. Leave it be, it will work itself out. Just never bad mouth the dad, put your son first (which sometimes call for drastic action that may hurt now, but save in the long run) and ensure your own happiness as well. In that order. And it will work out.