Hi Everyone, I need your opinions please. We've got 3 children. 2 boys are 9 and 7 years and our daughter 4 years old. I know they always say that the middle child becomes the problem child. The 7 year old started this new screaming blue murder thing every time he gets hurt or he and his brother has a fight. I am sure the neighbours must think that I am beating my child to death or something like that. He screams on the top of his lungs, no tears at all, just screaming and "crying". This is upsetting our household. The teacher at the aftercare also phoned me yesterday asking if there was a problem at home...becuase my child screams and cries for no reason at all lately.

I am fedup. What do you suggest I do. Time out doesnt work, I was thinking maybe I should take away some privelidges until his behaviour improves? I had a heart to heart chat with him last night, and I asked him why he is behaving like this...he refused to talked to me and just said he doesnt know.

Take him to a Neurologist, my son used to be like this and it turned out he had Temporal Lobe Epilepsy which can be controlled. We have a much happier environment now

You're going to have to be very patient, loving and caring towards this child. You have to get him to a psychologist URGENTLY. I cannot stress URGENTLY enough. He needs a thorough assessment, diagnosis and possibly medication. Its a very stressful time for all you but especially him as he doesnt have the verbal skills to transfer to you how helpless and in despair he feels. You can nip the problem in the bud and have a healthy loving child again and peace in the family. I must stress that it is important you do this.

The biggest cautionary note here is to be completely aware of the short and long term effect of medication. There is NO medication produced anywhere that targets only what the symptom is, they all have severe effects on cellular growth. While this may bring about short term harmony and so called peace, it would be far better to take a real look at assessing the total environment that the chile and/or adult that is challenged finds themselves in. What is the underlying emotional trigger that is causing the behavious? Find this and you have a well adjusted, happy little being on your hands.