My wife and i have been going through some really tough and trying times, there are financial issues which can only be solved by me finally getting a job, which is proving to be very difficult, there are other personel issues that have caused a rift in our relationship which she cant seem to get through. Anyway all things seem to point towards her leaving. She has more than likely got a job offer in another town, which is 1000km from me, i have to stay here as we are trying to sell the house and i have no alternative but to stay otherwise who can say what will happen to it if left unoccupied.
my big concern is that with the distance between us i wont see my kids, they are my life and i have spent most of this day trying not to break out in tears just thinking about the idea that i wont see them for months if she goes. You see the only financially viable way of gettig to her is to drive and that means i cant just pop in and take them for ice cream, my son is 9 months old and he is just starting to warm up to me and i fear that he will no longer know me after months away. My daughter is 3 and i know she wil miss me (eventually), and i am sure that if/when i finally see them i will have a very hard time leaving espicially if my daughter realises that when i go she wont see me for a while.

does anybody out there have any words of advice on what i can do or have had something similiar happen to them and have advice. I really dont want to go all legal as i dont want to sour things up

She is moving out there as her dad/parents are there not for career fllment

Nope - sorry, Scott, contrary to popular opinion, Skype is absolutely NO substitute for real contact.

I know even magistrates and judges have latched onto Skype, and recommended it for fathers to keep in touch with their children, but it's RUBBISH!

It's barely adequate for keeping in touch with siblings and other family that have emigrated, but when it comes to a parent's/child's touch and embrace, a whispered word, a quick cuddle and a hug, Skype simply sucks. And I'm being as polite as possible here.

It's better than NOTHING, that's true. But barely.


However, Scott is right on the money with regards to the house: get yourself a reputable, honest Estate Agent (ARE there any left out there?), rent the house out, and get them started on marketing it - then you can go with your family and keep in touch with your children.

Most importantly, Dribble, getting a job isn't impossible - if you are prepared to swallow your pride and take anything honest that brings in money. Nobody (normally) starts off in the job they would REALLY like to have - they have to work their way up to it...

Remember, all issues can be resolved if both parties are willing to work on it. "Work" is the operative word here...