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#1 Posted : Monday, September 12, 2011 1:39:49 PM(UTC)
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Hi, i am a Divorced mother , my daughter is 5 years old and going to pre-primary.

My ex and I have a legal arrangement that she should be picked up by him Friday afternoons from school every alternative weekend, and be brought back to me on Sunday evenings.

however, He never seems to have the time to pick het up, or bring her back as per arrangements in the divorce settlement.
He sends his girlfriend to pick her up on Fridays, without my consent , phones Sunday evenings to say he will drop her off at school Monday morning, en then drops her off hours after school starts, also without letting me know.

Even after I requesting him to be on time he still proceeds as he wishes. And I will receive threats that he will start a legal battle as he disagrees with the way I raise her.

Even after requesting him to not contact my partner, whenever I do not answer my phone immediate (charging in the bedroom, while i am in the kitchen) , he will still phone my partner and refuse to give me his partners telephone number, although she picks up my child from school without my consent or knowledge when he is unable to .

He just decides that I am ok with whatever he decides, thus my child is taken from school by someone that I don’t personally know, and without my knowledge of the changed arrangement, and also, no way for me to confirm that my child is ok when she is with his girlfriend.

What can i do, to ensure that arrangements are made and kept by with my knowledge and consent ?
Lungy
#2 Posted : Tuesday, September 13, 2011 12:13:06 PM(UTC)
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Hi,

Does your daughter have a problem with this woman fetching her? If she doesnt and the woman does not drink and drive I think you should let this one go. Most of the time we get caught up in all sorts of fights with our ex's and sometimes it really is not important. Im sure, if you had a problem and couldnt fetch your daughter from school your would ask someone else. Imagine if you had to run this past your ex every time? How you feel about the woman shouldnt matter in this case.

With regards to his calling your boyfriend, rather block his number on your boyfriends phone. That way when he does call him, the call doesnt get through. Problem solved without fighting with him.

With regards to him not returning your daughter on time, again check if it is really that important, if it is then approach the courts, Im sure there is a law that he is breaching. Do this only and only if it really is that important to you.
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#3 Posted : Thursday, September 15, 2011 12:48:47 PM(UTC)
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Hi,

I also agree with Lungy.

I feel that he at least needs to let you know prior that he can/cannot pick your daughter up and that his girlfriend will. Just good communication there would make it easier for all parties.

He is still her dad.

I would suggest that you all (except your daughter) sit around the table and discuss these issues like adults and also create time to meet the other partners.

Its about the kids not who has control or wants to control more over the other parent.

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