After 11 artificial inseminations my (ex) partner and I tried G.I.F.T, it worked first time!!!. Emma was born in March 2006. She is our little everything and a spice more  Im sitting with a few dilemmas and am hoping all the Mothers / partners out there could throw some ideas into the pot. The first, when Em asks where she came from, how do I tell her. The second, how do it tell her its ok to have 2 Moms (I think I have that sorted, but let me put in on the washing line anyway) The third, she’s at a really wonderful, health, loving Day Mom. There are 9 other kids and she’ll be the oldest next year. They paint and play with doe occasionally. I love it when she comes home with muddy feet and cloths, as I know she had a busy day outside. However, Im a little concerned she wont be stimulated enough next year. Do I send her to a play school and let her life already be determine / structured by time or do I let her be a kid, but not learn as much as she should? Last one, my partner and I split up earlier this year, Em has been really good with the break up. She has sleep overs with the ex Monday, Thursday and Saturdays. Last night she cried bitterly for the ex and ran to the door calling her name – it just broke my heart! How can I make things easier for her?!

Hi, you've got quite a few issues going on at once - understatement :)

We adopted our son so we also have the issue of "where do I come from?" We're dealing with it openly (we don't want him to think it's a secret to be ashamed of) and in an age appropriate way (we read him story books and tell him his story). I imagine you can do much the same for having two mums. It also helps having friends in a similar situation i.e. other families with two mums or two dads so Emma can see other people are the same as her.

On the day care, we sent our little one to nursery school when he was 2 1/2 and that has been great for him. We wanted to wait until he was 3 but then his best friend was starting so we thought it would be good if they started together and it's worked out well. However, your little girl is going through quite a few changes at the moment - especially getting used to one mum not living with her all the time - so maybe she could stay with her familiar day mother for a while longer. I have learnt that little people are very resistant to change but you know your own child best.

What the parent24ed advises for acknowledging Emma's feelings is sound. That's my tuppence. Good luck! Let us know how you're doing.