@SingleMommy My sister and I have a 10 year gap between us and when I was younger it was difficult. An 8 year old wanting to be in an 18 year old's business just didn't work. Now thought we're the best of friends... :)

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HI

it doesnt matter hubby and i have no huge gap from our siblings, only 15 months gab between us, wanna try ours like that too.

as close as possible...

I think 2 years is best gab, when they grow up they will have lots in common and they will be like friends. My 2 kids are 1 year and 7 months apart and yes it was very difficult at times and the sleepless nights was overwerlming but now my son is4 and my daughter is 3 and they play together and are like friends. My sister's kids are 3 years apart and she is strugeling more due to the fact that she needs to keep both of them busy. Her Daughter is 3 and she had different needs than her 4 month old baby...
the closer the better, for the kids and for the parents.

I suppose it depends on how soon are the parents ready for the next one. I don't really think there's an ideal age gap. Im a mother to a 14 month old and currently 2 months pregnant. I am sooo not ready for another child, I'm afraid I won't cope with the two but I guess I can't reverse what has happened.

I think its great if you can have them as close as possible, however it doesnt alsways work out. I waited a long time and had 3 miscarriages before I finally had my son. My daughter is 8 and my son is almost 2 and she is an enourmous help. She gets into his cot and reads him stories. Her freinds adore him and they all fight over who will bath him, push the pram, do the nappy est. Thats the good part. When they playing certain games that he cant participate in, they get annoyed. It is difficult sometimes and sometimes its easier. Its no reason not to have a second, just because there is a larger gap. There are always pros and cons to every situation.

i have 3 girls 7,6 and 4 and it's very difficult. You cannot give each child the attention they need. i think a 3 year gap is good.

My eldest son will be 8 this year, second son will be 6 and I am 12weeks pregnant with no.3!! two year gap between the 1st two and 6 year gap between the second and the one on the way!

Addymark, love is a funny old thing... it isn't limited in any way - I used to think like you, and I said to my father once that I didn't want a second child, because I loved my first child SO much, it would be unfair to the second child to bring them into this world and not give them all the love that is possible to give, to not give them the same love I was giving my first-born.

My father told me, "Son, when you have a second child you'll realise that love isn't limited in any way - you can love two, three, or even four or more children JUST as much as your first child - love grows so that there is always enough to go around".

I didn't believe him then.

I now have two children.

And I love each of them JUST as much as each other. I love each of them JUST as much as I loved my eldest when he was born, and when I didn't believe I could ever love anything so much in my life again.

My father was right. Love grows to fit your life - and there is no limit to it.

Luckily, before my father passed on, I had the opportunity to tell him that he was right.