My son is just over 3 years old, His father and I have had an arrangement that he could have our son every second weekend but with conditions. One weekend he tookour son and could not be found for more than 24 hours I was hysterical, after that I was blackmailed when our son needed and operation hisf ather was willing to pay but on terms tha he gets to have our son every second weekend. Then I agreed that our son could spend two days before xmas with his father and I iformed his father that our son was feverish and that he be medicated. HE nevr medicated and our son had an fever convulsion which forced me to suspend unsupervised visits and now I am the one being sued. I'm due to appear in court.

I would like to know from other responsible fathers would you have done the same? How can a father be deemed fit to care for a child if he puts a child into the hospital? It has been an emotional roller coaster ride. I felt I exercised my rights as parent and I feel sad that I have to be dragged to court. Can anyone tell me what goes on in a family conference?

I would be greatful if someone could advise on our situation - my son is 16, turning 17 later this year and has been going to his father every second weekend since the age of 3 (we are divorced). Both parents have re-married. My son is not happy going there on weekends anymore, the atmosphere is always tense and they are never happy with anything he does. He wants to see his father a couple of times a month but just the two of them, do something together alone. His father has now freaked out and told me it's not acceptable. Until what age are they compelled to go for weekends? Our settlement agreement is very vague and just says 'reasonable access at all reasonable times'.

Good day

I really hope to get some advice and I truelly need help. I am a single mommy my daughter is 4 years old. I stay with my parents. I do not have a permanent job but I do temp at companies so I dont exactly work everyday. But If I cant take the cost of my daughter my parents are there and we support her and give what she dserves as she is a good child. Her father and I are no longer dating. He is 27 has a job he does not earn alot but earns R5000.00. He is currently living with his partner. They split all costs of there apartmnet. He pays me 450 for maintanence which I think is ridiculous. He pays 450 and says he cant afford 500 a month. but he has a cellphone contract of 350 dstv as well as a laptop contract. I do not know if I am being unreasonable I did take him to maintenance court before . We must appear on the 7 March 2012.
y daughters expences are so much she goes to cresche its her normal daily requirements as well as doctors fees and meds that myself and parents take on.. I do not keep my daughter away as this is her father but recently she got sick and he refused to stay at home to care for her. I could not stay at home as I am a casual. He says he does alot but really he doesnt. It is her birthday soon I asked him for an extra 200 so i can have her party at cresche but he refuses to give me anything. I dont know what to do cause he needs to step up.

I use to drop my daughter by his place and pick hr up on a sunday. I dont do that anymore cause he is just rude and never ever thanked me. He is not allowed at our house cause he is extremely disrespectful to my parents. he tells my daughter I am a bitch. Which i never bad mouth cause she will get older and make up her own mind I dont have to prove anything to her.

I dont know what to do about the maintenance.
Her father threatens me at a regular basis abt taking me to court cause at times e have family events then i swap weekends with him then he says I keep his daughter away which i really dont do he doesnt even care abt her when she is sick he will never phone her or anything he will ask me a week later how she is doing.

Please help