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#26 Posted : Tuesday, October 26, 2010 12:58:57 PM(UTC)
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what if the girl falls pregnant on purpose just to make money from the guy. basically the guy is trapped for life, or is there any hope for the poor guy?
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#27 Posted : Tuesday, October 26, 2010 2:06:06 PM(UTC)
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Well... seems like you've mentioned the case that everybody avoids talking about...

It's a little like the stupid young girls out there having babies for the sake of the child grant. It doesn't make much sense to anybody with an I.Q. above single digits, let alone anywhere NEAR the average (95 in South Africa), but that's not really a consideration with a lot of these young girls... all they know is they hate school, they hate working, they hate being told what to do, and being a parent is an easy and quick way to attain adulthood. Or so they think... IF they think...

The only hope for the 'poor guy' is to either keep his d1ck in his pants, or use a condom - a no-brainer ANYWAY, given the real AIDS infection numbers (not the bullsh1t the government feeds you).........

Use it, lose it - if people thought even a LITTLE bit logically before they started rubbing their uglies together, there'd be a lot less poverty and crime in this country... Heck, if people just THOUGHT, it would make a difference...
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#24 Posted : Tuesday, November 09, 2010 11:23:00 AM(UTC)
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Need some advice, I have 3 boys aged 9, 6 and 4, their father does not work and has refused to pay maintenance even while he was working.. I feel as if the justice system has failed me. He has subsequently re married and his wife works. Both his parents are pensioners and he sees the kids every second weekend however, some weekends he conveniently makes them my responsibility... I'm so frustrated I don't know where to turn as it is tough dealing with the financial responsibility on my own. Can I sue his wife? and is there a law that can make him stick to his agreement? They are married by muslim law!


Hi there, i was wondering if you got a reply to your question. I have exactly the same problem.
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#28 Posted : Thursday, November 11, 2010 12:33:23 PM(UTC)
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Hi,

Have you tried / visited your local Maintenance Court yet? Most local Magistrate's Courts have one. I realise legal representation costs money, but in our case it's worth the additional monthly expense. Alternatively some guidance can also be given by proper social workers (others are absolutely useless).

In any case, get ready for a lengthy process, these things are seldom resolved within a month or 3. We are in a maintenance battle going on 11 months now and the ex have yet to pay a cent. He declared poverty (& is unemployed) although he manages to maintain himself and new girlfriend monthly. We're only now (past month) starting to make progress with the help of legal representation.

Good luck, hang in there.
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#29 Posted : Thursday, November 11, 2010 1:48:00 PM(UTC)
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My X was due to pay my son child support increase end Sep, but instead he got a puppy. Now explain to me what is more important, getting a puppy or paying the child support. I've got to reminder him every month to pay the kids support on time & if I don't then I won't get it. I'm going to apply for a Garnish, cause there are far to many divorced parent's out there who are struggling to get paid & that applies for both husband & wife
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#30 Posted : Friday, November 12, 2010 1:03:36 AM(UTC)
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Depends, really, on how much of a dog you are to him, doesn't it? Maybe the puppy reminds him of you....
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#20 Posted : Saturday, February 05, 2011 1:06:45 AM(UTC)
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Roestorf, it seems you have some (ok, a lot of) issues you still need to deal with.

The cause of a relationship failing is actually not the point, once the relationship is over. Once you've reached that point, all that matters is the children and their welfare.

So, for you to be harping on about "they cheated and messed up the marriage", "these kind of men are just sickening", "they treat you you like shit", and "if his family know about all the shut he does" just tells everybody you're not the high-minded dispassionate observer you try to pass yourself off as, but rather an embittered ex-wife (or soon to be, at any rate), who is more concerned with the causes of the breakdown and with making her ex PAY for it, than with the fact that as adults, the parents need to grow up, get over themselves, and start doing the very best they possibly can for their child(ren), regardless of their own hurt feelings and feelings of injustice.
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#31 Posted : Wednesday, February 09, 2011 11:53:21 AM(UTC)
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im gettin R1000 for my daughter very grateful but i do not work yet and im struggling financally, luckily im staying with parents but do wonder what would happen if i wasnt should i go to a lawyer? can anyone tell me what fees would be in durban area?thk
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#33 Posted : Wednesday, February 09, 2011 1:28:01 PM(UTC)
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im gettin R1000 for my daughter very grateful but i do not work yet and im struggling financally, luckily im staying with parents but do wonder what would happen if i wasnt should i go to a lawyer? can anyone tell me what fees would be in durban area?thk


Get yourself a job........
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#32 Posted : Wednesday, February 09, 2011 6:17:02 PM(UTC)
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im gettin R1000 for my daughter very grateful but i do not work yet and im struggling financally, luckily im staying with parents but do wonder what would happen if i wasnt should i go to a lawyer? can anyone tell me what fees would be in durban area?thk


A good attorney should cost around R1000 per hour.
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#21 Posted : Friday, February 18, 2011 5:29:27 PM(UTC)
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Roestorf, it seems you have some (ok, a lot of) issues you still need to deal with.

The cause of a relationship failing is actually not the point, once the relationship is over. Once you've reached that point, all that matters is the children and their welfare.

So, for you to be harping on about "they cheated and messed up the marriage", "these kind of men are just sickening", "they treat you you like shit", and "if his family know about all the shut he does" just tells everybody you're not the high-minded dispassionate observer you try to pass yourself off as, but rather an embittered ex-wife (or soon to be, at any rate), who is more concerned with the causes of the breakdown and with making her ex PAY for it, than with the fact that as adults, the parents need to grow up, get over themselves, and start doing the very best they possibly can for their child(ren), regardless of their own hurt feelings and feelings of injustice.



Can I reply on that, you do not know the person at all, you do not know what she had to go through, and If she wants to speak my mind, well then she will speak it very load and clear. She i not punishing her ex, she actually just want to get divorced and go on with her life, and I do not think a woman like that will ever be a bitter ex wife, She is lucky not one of those. She is also not punishing her ex, why should she, She walked into this marriage with her own and walked out with her own, she is the least interested in his money and can take care of herself always have been and always will, she is just expressing how some men not all of them can take life for a joke and then when the wife finds out, they are all to blame, and then they even tell you O but we are never wrong, I call that someone with issues. I know this woman and se is a remarkable and excellent mother and no one else will tell me differently, she loved her child since he was in her tummy, despite people telling her o but why don't you go for an abortion, so please do not comment on someone if you have your own issues to deal with, you do not know her and don't know her situation.....she is maybe exactly looking after the best interest of her child, if a husband cant admit his wrong doing nor try to be humble in what he did or show no remorse, then why should she stay.....she made up her mind and it looks like she is moving on, so please its not a sin to speak your mind, if you want to.....
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